I knew where this was going.
According to "Islamic" laws, they could not just marry. Some OTHER man had to marry the girl, fuck her (the polite way of saying this is 'consummate the marriage') and then divorce her the next morning, so he (the original husband) can marry her again. They call this 'halala' marriage.
Even as I was seeing this on TV I could not believe I was actually watching this. THIS IS SO WRONG. Not only does this law NOT exist in Islam but I was shocked that this misconception was being promoted by ARY.
Let's get this straight.
A man loves a woman, who is his ex-wife. He wants to marry her.Does this even SOUND right?
She also loves him, and wants to remarry.
So they get a third person to fuck the woman and then divorce her, so they can remarry.
Again, this is not Islamic law. And it is SO HARD when you talk to people from the subcontinent (read: desis). People from India, Bangladesh and Pakistan are some of the most ignorant people in religion. They have all these bullshit knowledge that they think is Islamic just because that's the way it was done.
And this halala knowledge falls into that category.
Today, I read Nadia's post and found she wrote (?) about a real life incident in the gulf like this.
Again, let's recap this.
WANTED: A man to fuck a woman for one night and divorce her immediately. Paid position. Immediately hiring.Again, does it even sound right?
Then why is ARY promoting this bullshit? And why do many of our elders actually believe this poppycock?
Now let me get to WHY this misconception exists.
So if a husband divorces his wife (for a third time), he cannot, after that remarry her until after she has married another husband and he has divorced her. In that case, there is no blame on either of them if they re-unite, provided they can keep the limits ordained by Allah. Such are the limits ordained by Allah which He makes plain to those who know". (2:230)First, please do NOT miss the 'third time'.
And second, the Prophet and others stressed that the woman has to be married to someone else in a NORMAL marriage. Not a marriage for the sake of divorce. It has to happen by circumstance.
And third, as Ali and many others have said, the man has to divorce the woman THRICE, in three different settings.
So, just to recap, for a woman divorced twice by the same guy, let's state this:
THERE IS NO BAR ON A MAN MARRYING HIS EX-WIFE BY DIVORCE.
For more info, just google 'halala and Islam'. Any cursory search will tell you it's wrong.
Despite all of this, why does it persist?
I leave you with the verdict of the Prophet of Islam.
"Allah has cursed the muhallil and the muhallal lahu." [narrator: Abu Dawood, classified sahi by Sunan Abi Dawood]
(muhallil is the one who marries a woman and divorces her so that she can go back to her first husband, muhallal lahu is the first husband)
The proper answer to a husband who has divorced his wife thrice should be that he can NEVER think of getting back together with her.